Journal #7465

Posted 12 years ago2011-11-06 04:47:55 UTC
So there's this friend whom I haven't seen in over two years. She lives far enough away that we don't casually come across each other in everyday routine. I'm suddenly presented with the opportunity of actually going across most of that distance, so I'm definitely visiting. I know she'll be thrilled. Also there's a chance I'll have to stay for a few days. However... I have two ways to do so, and I'm finding it difficult to decide what to do. I can:

a) Tell her I'm coming. She'll love it and we'll both rejoice over the thought of meeting once again after such a long time. Plus there's the minuscule chance that she'll decide to take the day (or days) off at work.

b) Not tell her I'm coming, making it a surprise and maximizing the effect. I can plot with her friend to make sure she doesn't make other plans. It's the least thing she expects to ever happen and she'll crap her panties when she sees me there. BUT, I'd have to sit around idling for most of the day (or days) while she's at the office. Potentially boring myself to death.

What would you guys do? Also, those with girlfriends/wives, please ask them what they think and what they'd like if you can. Women see the world differently :)

I'd appreciate any comments and advice :)

14 Comments

Commented 12 years ago2011-11-06 05:20:10 UTC Comment #62284
Personally I'd prefer to tell her in advance, if you do it spur of the moment she can't really prepare for your arrival so you two can maybe have a nice dinner or some crap like that and just showing up might force her to make arrangements on the spot, but I really don't know who your friend is, so I'm not sure.

Women love to feel important, after all, wouldn't you? Praise her, tell her she's beautiful [if applicable] and all that stuff, to some it may seem a bit dumb to have to tell their significant other all that stuff but it really does go a long way in making them feel better about themselves.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-06 05:50:09 UTC Comment #62279
She's not my girlfriend, I don't want a candlelight dinner with her or to kiss her under the full moon.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-06 06:04:31 UTC Comment #62285
My bad, skimmed it too quickly. But again, if you want to spend quality time with her I'd personally tell her in advance to plan something out, even if it's just watching a movie or something like that, but I don't know her so I can't really say.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-06 10:45:41 UTC Comment #62275
I'd tell her in advance. It makes everything smoother.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-06 12:37:05 UTC Comment #62274
"She's not my girlfriend, I don't want a candlelight dinner with her or to kiss her under the full moon."

What does that have to do with it? I hate people who come without letting me know. I'm usually in the middle of modelling and have a good rhythm going.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-06 14:57:24 UTC Comment #62282
I would tell her you're coming, because nobody likes unexpected guests. Haven't you ever read the Hobbit?
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-06 19:53:18 UTC Comment #62276
Tell her, it would be a lot less awkward that way, and you'll know that she really wants to see you.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-06 21:45:08 UTC Comment #62283
Yeah, like what if she has to go to like a funeral, or something. What if something important is scheduled that she cant just quit.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-07 01:07:44 UTC Comment #62280
@Habboi: That was in response to Crollo's last paragraph.

@Everybody else: I do know she wants to see me, and I also know what's in her schedule. We do talk, we just don't get to meet often. That's why I know she'll be thrilled to see me. Also her friend said that too.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-07 06:19:28 UTC Comment #62277
in the end i would go with your gut. surprises can be fun! =)
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-07 15:09:13 UTC Comment #62273
I would surprise her by wearing a ski mask and "pretending" to rob her. Then when she poos her panties pull off the mask and say "surprise!" Jk lol. Do what you feel. Personally, i'd let her know.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-07 18:27:18 UTC Comment #62272
I would tell her in advance if she is just a friend. If you decide you want to kiss her under the full moon, then go with the full out surprise.
Commented 12 years ago2011-11-07 22:05:27 UTC Comment #62278
zeeba: YES! disco should wear makeup and do the Trip Dub!

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Commented 12 years ago2011-11-08 05:10:50 UTC Comment #62281
Not black enough.

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