Journal #7057

Class will definitely help. I've been the same way myself back in the day, but I think so long as you can firmly say that you have a few really great friends, then I don't see the problem.

It could be worse; You could be me. Think about it.

Are you afraid to be around people or do you just like to keep to yourself? There's a fine line between being strongly introverted and having social anxiety disorder
No idea why you don't want more than 4 people? That's not something you have to justify. In my experience, most people have long since grown out of that mentality that keeping to one's self or having few friends is some kind of indicator of social failure. That or I've just grown out of caring and have stopped noticing it on others.

What do you mean you "suck at all but the most essential social activities?" You and I have had plenty of conversations over Steam, I've never noticed anything particularly "sucky" about them.

Edit: Which isn't to say that you shouldn't keep considering exactly where your social skills stand, of course. Socializing is a skill. Outgoing people obviously have much more chance to perfect that skill than people who prefer to stay alone.

Edit Edit: Or you could be slipping into depression.
If you really start to get concerned, have a long talk with a psychologist to try to find out what's up. Food for thought.

As said, keeping to yourself isn't necessarily a bad socializing thing, it just means... You'd rather keep to yourself most the time, like me.

And what might these 'essential social things' be? Stuff such as humor or whatnot?

Well yeah, it's different with a computer and hundreds of miles of cables in the middle. Outside the digital plains (read: IRL) I'm rather introverted. While I sometimes make an effort not to, I generally keep to myself.

Of course, I can perform "essential social activities" acceptably, such as going to a store and talking to the clerk without freaking out and running away in panic. I have no problem with that, or even chatting with the old lady in the line. But when it comes to making friends it's an entirely different story. I feel I'm no good at that. It never works.

As for the 4-person limit, it's just an approximation. Could very well be 5, I just don't want a large group. Never wanted, actually, I'm not comfortable in large groups (say, 8? 10?). Usually they organically split into smaller chat subgroups and I'm the one left out

Oh well, I guess I'm just having "one of those days". Or a few. It'll likely go away and I'll go back to not caring about this soon enough.

I don't think one has to 'be good' at making friends. Being friends is about compatibility in spirit. You can be a sociable person (i.e. polite, well-spoken, etc), but not have a huge amount of friends. If its part of your personality to feel comfortable in small groups, then there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. So long as your group of friends are good friends.

You suck at socializing? Bet 200 US dollars that I suck at it more than you, man.

I have the same thing. Only mine feels more like deppression. I've just been sitting in school, everybody else to me... is like... stupid. When we're watching movies in class or as a reward, I'm the one not laughing. Ya know why? Because it's just a stupid kids' movie.

When I asked a girl out, I got turned down. Don't really care. People think I'm deppressed.

Girl changes her mind. Don't really care. People think I'm extremely happy.

Girl gets trapped in a cage and is fed chicken food. Yes worried, but socially, don't really care. People are worried of what I think.

It makes me happy and sad when the computer teacher calls me his computer nerd. I know more about computers than him, apparently, and kids like me. They get jealous of how I do in class, though.

"Uh-oh! You were absent for three days and missed three projects."
"Done!... with six minutes of free time!" Then I go play on Lunar Magic.

But, I suck at socializing for one very reason: People suck. They're stupid, immature, and creepy.

But, that's just for kids.

You should start talking with your parents Dimbark. Don't worry about these things, you're only 11(or 12?).

And it's very bad to think about everyone as stupid in comparison to you. You will become an arrogant person. You have to accept everybody as they are.
Stop thinking of yourself as the best. You aren't.

I'm not saying everybody is stupid, it's just...

Watch Freeman's Mind. You'll see what I mean through the words of Ross Scott.

happy almost birthday, mines two days later.

Nothing wrong with that. You just like to keep to yourself. Although perhaps you should find a goal in life to keep you going or being on your own really will make you depressed.

Agreed. As well as that, look at all the people that have rallied to your plight in this journal.

Doesn't just happen for no reason, you know.

dimbark i'm really curious what kind of school you're going to and what kind of background your city is, because where I am, kids your age know alot about computers and type fast already, so seems weird to me how the kids in your school are not at all into computers. Dunno, seems so retro in this day and age.

Perhaps he lives in Molvania, where only in the past decade computers entered the consumer market?

Glad to see supportive people around (even if you guys aren't literally around), it does make me feel better. Thanks for your comments

I used to be right in the same boat. The best advice I can offer is find the people who you feel most comfortable around. Could be easier said than done, admittedly. But it worked for me.

I live in a small village in Ohio.

This place is sports oriented.
I hate sports.

@Darkie: That's what I do. I'd suppose that's the reason I don't have more friends.