Journal #8191

Posted 10 years ago2013-06-22 20:31:33 UTC
Meet a nice girl > Go out a few times > "We can't be together. You're too perfect for me."
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Commented 10 years ago2013-06-22 21:06:34 UTC Comment #62524
What the heck.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-22 22:19:18 UTC Comment #62526
or lets just be a friends =_='
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-22 22:19:50 UTC Comment #62516
Means she's not interested. It's possible that she's already found someone else, unfortunately.
You're welcome to try to get a real answer out, but you'd probably just waste more of your time.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-22 22:48:05 UTC Comment #62527
She has left it more than clear that she's very interested. That's why this makes no sense.

I've been dismissed for not being interesting enough, which makes sense in a way; but getting rejected for being too interesting... that is new.

LIFE, Y U NO MAKE SENSE
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-22 23:43:54 UTC Comment #62518
A white lie, perhaps? Some people are very good at it.

I'm sorry, I understand that you are very upset about it or you wouldn't share it here. But, I have to agree with Soup Miner.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-23 01:56:35 UTC Comment #62528
She made it clear not with words, but with past deeds.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-23 05:16:50 UTC Comment #62534
Its common logic that women will do this.
If you like the girl, than don't give up as if she means nothing to you.

First try, because you indeed can keep her if you understand her and her feelings. You need to show that you can love her and give her all your best.
Listen to your inner feeling.

And do keep in mind that some girls are "corrupted" by the fake morals of todays society, and that many are confused a lot about how things should work. As I said, show that you can give her your best and understand her.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-23 07:03:31 UTC Comment #62522
naw listen to the women experts here!
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-24 00:35:50 UTC Comment #62519
ffffffff
sorry to hear man :(:(
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-24 03:13:51 UTC Comment #62529
Yeah... I guess only time will tell.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-24 04:45:10 UTC Comment #62535
Don't just wait like that, if she shows interest, and is a nice girl, act!
Don't waste a chance just because some one else tried and failed.

You never know until you try. If you want a relationship, there is no other way.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-24 05:09:09 UTC Comment #62523
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-26 12:23:39 UTC Comment #62520
.. because logic.

On a serious note, sorry to hear. It's always hard to get over the "it's not you" kind of break-ups.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-26 13:30:44 UTC Comment #62538
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-28 12:43:00 UTC Comment #62536
Ah, women are made of confusing emotional turmoil that for some reason men can't understand... Sorry about the silly woman, and sorry if this kinda is a kick to the stomach.

Usually, when a woman gives an excuse that is "Its not you, its me." it usually means, you are a awesome person, I like you because you've done all this but I don't think I could do the long term thing. It's kinda a womans way of going "It's been fun, but I'm going to go find a different person to go lead around for awhile."

Doesn't mean you shouldn't try though, if she does mean something too you, try (if she's truly interested she will think this is sweet and think you are "the perfect man for her"). But know when to back off. If you try one or two times more and its fruitless... I would suggest moving on because it probably was an above situation.

But hey, you could get an awesome female friend out of this, and she may have friends. X)
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-28 13:05:27 UTC Comment #62517
Can't be together, too perfect? seriously? That's as shitty of a reason as "you're not the one."

If you were a couple, you'd work it out somehow. Start doing some minor forgivable fuck ups ;] If you let her go with that as the reason, thats bullshit and you can't let that slide if you really like her. You can't tell a woman you care about her, YOU HAVE TO SHOW HER! and it doesn't need to be grandiose like in the movies, though if you can pull something off like that, go for it. Women love movies.

Some girls like assholes. They do that because something on the inside is damaged or missing. Its a loophole in feminine psychology that they want the outside situation to match their inside. Men are nearly opposite so we don't understand it, but it's safe to simply know about it. If you talk and get to know this estranged side of her, you could be able to let her know that she can be happy, and that perhaps she deserves to be happy, and give things a chance.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-28 18:49:54 UTC Comment #62530
We had a talk. Apparently she really really wanted not to be in a relationship this year because she "needed to be free of ties for a while", and "didn't want to miss out on life for a change" (whatever that means) but also she really really likes me and wants me and it was that contradiction that was causing her stress.

I had to bring up that famous quote from John Lennon: "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans."

Seems she's giving it a try. I'll post again if anything interesting happens.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-28 21:58:52 UTC Comment #62537
Good luck to you then sir. Hopefully she thinks this through better, and realises that if she waits too long she may lose something special.
Commented 10 years ago2013-06-29 03:18:59 UTC Comment #62531
That's what caused her this contradiction.

And this is why I remain single. When there's even a hint of this sort of drama being permanent, I just walk away. I'll give her this one, but I don't think I'll let it happen again.
Commented 10 years ago2013-07-05 06:40:28 UTC Comment #62532
Update: She just wants to be friends. Down the drain she goes. Goodbye.
Commented 10 years ago2013-07-05 07:37:35 UTC Comment #62525
Now I just remembered what your situation resembles with.

Have you watched 500 days of summer? Go watch it :).

P.S.(I know you'll see this message because you are posting in the shoutbox a link to your comment, and for the rest of the day you'll be F5ing this page)

P.S.2(But I don't know if I will)
Commented 10 years ago2013-07-05 11:37:15 UTC Comment #62521
She's not interested, but she's trying to make it seem as if it wasn't your fault - she's trying to be nice about it. She obviously wants to be friends, but doesn't want you to invade her vaginal cavity just yet.
Commented 10 years ago2013-07-06 03:42:40 UTC Comment #62533
To say it in American: Fuck if I know.

I'm just getting tired of "I like you as a friend". I'm all for having friends, but come on. They're doing it on purpose.

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