So there's this friend whom I haven't seen in over two years. She lives far enough away that we don't casually come across each other in everyday routine. I'm suddenly presented with the opportunity of actually going across most of that distance, so I'm definitely visiting. I know she'll be thrilled. Also there's a chance I'll have to stay for a few days. However... I have two ways to do so, and I'm finding it difficult to decide what to do. I can:
a) Tell her I'm coming. She'll love it and we'll both rejoice over the thought of meeting once again after such a long time. Plus there's the minuscule chance that she'll decide to take the day (or days) off at work.
b)
Not tell her I'm coming, making it a surprise and maximizing the effect. I can plot with her friend to make sure she doesn't make other plans. It's the least thing she expects to ever happen and she'll crap her panties when she sees me there. BUT, I'd have to sit around idling for most of the day (or days) while she's at the office. Potentially boring myself to death.
What would you guys do? Also, those with girlfriends/wives, please ask them what they think and what they'd like if you can. Women see the world differently
I'd appreciate any comments and advice